Fitzlife Unfiltered with Kim & Jamie Fitzpatrick
Kim and Jamie Fitzpatrick are partners in every sense of the word, both in life and business. Former employees turned online entrepreneurs, they are a married couple of two awesome little humans; Colby is 12 and Tessa is 9, and they live in Burlington, Ontario, Canada with their rescue dog Clemmy. They have together, and individually, built multiple 7 figure businesses, both traditional brick and mortar as well as online enterprises in Direct Sales, Online Retail, and life & business coaching. Nothing is off limits in this podcast as they share triumphs and struggles, both personally and professionally, and really hope to help others relate to the trials and tribulations that this crazy life offers. Love, marriage, kids, sex, business, abundance, and inspiration are routinely covered in the hopes that we can provide value to your life and maybe even the courage to chase some of those dreams that have been put on hold for far too long. Please always check the episode notes for contact info and resources related to the topic. Thank you for listening, it is so appreciated! Enjoy!
Fitzlife Unfiltered with Kim & Jamie Fitzpatrick
Episode #154 - What's Your One Thing?
In this episode we talk a lot about something that affects a lot of people...making real commitments instead of just talking about change. With a few months left in the year, it's easy to let panic set in about unmet goals. But what if we flipped that into possibility?
The conversation centered on a challenge many face. Alcohol consumption. It's socially normalized, deeply embedded in various cultures, and often used as a coping mechanism for stress and anxiety. The research is clear. It negatively impacts brain health, physical wellbeing, and mental clarity. Yet it remains a difficult habit to address.
During our discussion, the tendency to negotiate against ourselves became apparent. Saying "I'll just have one glass at special occasions" often becomes the slippery slope that prevents real change. It's thinking that's neither fully committed nor effective, and it rarely produces results.
The key insight is this. When you commit to one aligned action, several other positive habits naturally fall into place. Better hydration, improved sleep, increased productivity, and mental clarity all follow from a single decision.
Implementation requires specific strategies. First, anchor the commitment to something tangible, like informing your social circle to create accountability. Second, track your progress visually with every week laid out Third, share it publicly to strengthen resolve. Finally, reframe the reward. Recognize that social enjoyment comes from connection with people, not from substances.
The broader principle applies to any area of life asking for attention. Whether it's early morning routines, fitness goals, or habit changes, consistency over 12 weeks can completely shift your trajectory.
The challenge is straightforward. Identify one commitment, write it down, and start immediately. Small, consistent moves create massive momentum. The question isn't whether change is possible. It's whether you're willing to consent to it and follow through.
Thanks you for listening!
K&J
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SPEAKER_00:We're Kim and Jeannie Fitzpatrick.
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SPEAKER_00:Let's dive in together. Hello, hello. Welcome back. Kimberly Maureen. How are you?
SPEAKER_01:I'm doing great. I'm excited.
SPEAKER_00:You look nice today.
SPEAKER_01:Thank you. I'm feeling great. I've got an amazing lunch today with one of my girlfriends. We are planning maybe a little Q4 event potentially.
SPEAKER_00:Where are you going for lunch?
SPEAKER_01:Probably gonna go to, I don't know, somewhere to somewhere.
SPEAKER_00:Somewhere to somewhere. I like it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. All right. So we check this out. We have 84 days left in this year.
SPEAKER_00:84.
SPEAKER_01:84.
SPEAKER_00:That means Christmas is coming in less than 80.
SPEAKER_01:I know. Merry Christmas. Happy New Year, actually. Oh my gosh. I still would like to go on a cruise over Christmas. Actually, you know what? I I saw the I saw those that cruise. Did I have any of you seen the documentary where it's like on a cruise and they all get stuck there? I'm not gonna watch it. Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, no.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not gonna watch that. Anyway, but wanted to really think about this. Like I was thinking about this this morning. Sometimes it can feel like a bit like panic can set in. Right? It's the end of the year. I haven't achieved all my goals. I haven't I'm not where I want to be, right? But it what if we turn that into I'm not where I am yet, or I'm not where I want to be. And there's like this fear of like, oh my gosh, there's so much that comes at the end of the year, to like, oh my gosh, why not me? Why not now? And what's the possibility in all of this? Like, remove the panic, remove the fear, remove the judgment. It's like there's 12 weeks left in the year. It's 84 days to make aligned choices that can completely shift your trajectory, like today, right from listening to this right now. You're the one making the decision, you're the one that's consenting to this idea of more, right? If you're listening to this and you're saying, Yeah, I want more, I just put my hand up. It's like, do you want more in your life?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Well, I think it's when when change has to happen, so many people think you have to do m all these multiple things, and it gets overwhelming. It's like, no, you can actually focus on one thing. Maybe maybe two, even.
SPEAKER_01:But the point of what I was saying was you have to consent to that. So if as long as you're consenting that you want something different, you want to change something, like we're both gonna share one thing that we're committing to, we've consented to, we're gonna stick to, we're gonna have discipline in. It's like as long as you consent to that and it's your idea, you can do anything. But if your life, someone's like, no, like if I nag you, how well does that go?
SPEAKER_00:And it doesn't go.
SPEAKER_01:It doesn't go because it's not, you don't, you don't like I'm just gonna stop because it's like there's no point in me nagging what I think you should be doing if you do not do it.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, if you can't consent to it, what's the point?
SPEAKER_01:Well, there isn't a point. That's my whole thing. So today it's like, okay, what are you consenting to? So everything we're talking to, it's like, is there one thing or what is it that you're consenting to? What's that idea? What's that idea? Where do you want to go?
SPEAKER_00:I don't mind. Okay, well, I know mine.
SPEAKER_01:What?
SPEAKER_00:I'm consenting to as little alcohol as possible.
SPEAKER_01:I love it. That's what I'm consenting to. Why?
SPEAKER_00:Because it's terrible for you. It's poisonous. It's bad on all fronts. It's bad for brain health, physical health, mental health. Um it is it's it's just not good. It's not good. It's it leads to anxiety, it's everything. It's and then and I'm not I'm not you know I'm not this anti-alcohol guy, but like Are you about to become one? I hope so.
SPEAKER_01:I love that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, it's really bad for you. And and this is not someone who's sober. I'm not I'm not preaching on a hill here. Like, like, you know, I have my stuff, and this is the one thing like I'm not gonna go sober, but I need to like almost remove it from my life. That's and that's a real commitment that I'm talking about out loud here. I'm Irish. Like, like, no, it's it's true. It's like it's a it's a don't don't it's not an excuse. I'm just saying it's like I'm Irish, it's something I grew up with, it's something I've always done. It's a it's a culture I've been a part of for a long time. And again, not an excuse. I'm my own individual, but this is something that like the more that comes out on alcohol, it is it is god-awful for everybody. It really is.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so we all say, like, I'm gonna start in January, like, we're okay, but we're gonna see our friends this week and we're gonna have the and lease it. Like, what are you gonna do? What's your plan? So this is and I'm not I'm not questioning you just to give preface though, because you know, okay, so anyone that's listening, like I love you know me, I'm pretty much alcohol free for the most part. Yeah, and I enjoy a glass of wine every now and then, and it's it's fine. It doesn't do very good things to me though. So it to me, it's like, what's even the point?
SPEAKER_00:You enjoy a sip of wine because you don't even finish the glass.
SPEAKER_01:Well, you do sometimes, but okay, but but my point is this. So it's like, okay, I love this. What's gonna happen when Thanksgiving? Like, what does that look like?
SPEAKER_00:I'll have a glass of wine. Yeah, but I I it does not need to be an every weekend thing. It just it just doesn't. It it it's not it's no purpose in it. There's no purpose in it. Okay, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So just for anyone listening's sake, so that so it's like we so what if your your start line, like it's this week you're gonna make a decision. Like what it what if you do go sober though? What if you don't have a glass of wine at Thanksgiving? Like what does that what does that look like? So this is this is where I really believe like the rubber meets the road, though. It's like it takes 66 days to set a decision. So if you're like, oh, I'm gonna not have as much wine, that isn't you saying, I'm gonna see what I can do with my body, my mind, my soul, my sleep, and actually remove it.
SPEAKER_00:That's fair.
SPEAKER_01:So to me, I want to challenge you on that. Cause I'm like, well, to me, I'm like, fuck, that's like half in, half out. I I like to me, that doesn't it's like telling an alcoholic you can socially drink, you know. Not that I'm not saying that that you are that. I'm just saying it's like, especially with our slippery slope of our families, like that it's just deep rooted everywhere. So what if you break that generation? What if you decide, yeah, this is uncomfortable and this is the uncomfortable part I need to actually stick to a decision? And like what would that look like? And and the reason I'm challenging Jamie is because do you see how easily he just talked himself out of it?
SPEAKER_00:I didn't I didn't say I was going sober. No, I didn't. Okay, am I just gonna sip water with my old-timer hockey guys after the game?
SPEAKER_01:You're gonna get a non-alcoholic beer.
SPEAKER_00:Be like, what are you doing?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, you're you're working on your body and your mind and your soul.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, I'll tell I'll tell all the 55-year-old hockey guys that.
SPEAKER_01:This is my point, though. I love this conversation because this is what's gonna be.
SPEAKER_00:I have my first game tonight. It's at 10:30. I can't go up for after that. I'm too tired anymore.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, so this is perfect. So it's like we all say we're gonna start in January, Jamie's starting today. It's like, what's this your start line? But think about this. Like, I want you, and I want to do this like for social proof. Like, I want you to take a video literally of yourself today. And I want you to say, like, okay, today's the date. This is what I decided and why. And it's personal, you don't need to share it anywhere, but like, this is for any of you, any of you that's committing to something. Okay. Any of you. And just say, like, I'm gonna look back at myself and it, or write yourself a letter of like, hey, it's this date. This version of me is dead today. This is my new identity. This is who I'm becoming. There are so many people that are in the best shape of their lives. I send you them all the time.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, what yeah, thanks for sending that to me. Like, do you think that's it?
SPEAKER_01:Brian Pruitt, he runs a whole men's thing.
SPEAKER_00:Helpful, helpful, hopefully.
SPEAKER_01:Brian is helpful. He's amazing.
SPEAKER_00:Brian is like, I'm straight as a board, but like Brian is probably the most attractive human man you'll ever you'll ever meet, right? Like he's he's just gripped.
SPEAKER_01:I'm like, you're gonna go to a retreat with him because it's like it's like being in the energy though of the people that you want to be around. But it's like here, it's like, okay, so we have to like really think about leadership and embodiment, right? Like if you say you're gonna do that, there's gotta be a why. Like, if you're just saying, well, I'll just have a glass of wine on Thanksgiving, it's like you're you're just going against what you're you're just negotiating against it with yourself because it's convenient.
SPEAKER_00:I can't wait to hear yours. Oh yeah. Okay, what's yours?
SPEAKER_01:No, no, we're gonna say, and how often how you finish is often how you'll begin, right? So it's like how we enter, uh how we close the year off will carry into 2026. So it's like, what is that gonna look like? So, okay, for me, mine is I'm I'm going to be locking in. Today I got up at six. So I want to get up at five and have a holy hour.
SPEAKER_00:Like I really need, I know what okay, just everybody she just announced. I was waiting for this too, after she kiboshed my my sobriety and it's like, no, you can't just have one drink. You have to go sober. Oh, I'm so glad you said five o'clock. I'm so glad you said five.
SPEAKER_01:So I did six and one o'clock this morning.
SPEAKER_00:So five o'clock, is that your thing? Every morning you're gonna get up at five.
SPEAKER_01:I want to, especially with your mom living with us. Like, I need my own.
SPEAKER_00:No, no, no, no, no. What's what's I want to? You just you just you just call me out for saying, I might, I might have a hold on, I might have a glass of wine. So so you're saying the odd morning you'll get up at five. That's the same thing.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. So here's the thing. So what if we do this invitation? So it's like today, we're we are helping you and we're helping ourselves find that one commitment, that micro shift. It's just one little micro shift that when repeated over time could transform your results and how you feel about yourself by December 31st. If you, if you okay, so let's say this. So for me, if my one habit would be to wake up at five o'clock in the morning, I need to think about well, what would that do for what will that markedly change in my life? So, number one, it'll give me two hours back in my day because I've noticed with my hormones, my like and the progesterone and all the blah blah blah. Oh my gosh, the menopause, it's just crazy. Um, I needed to sleep more, but that means that I need to go to bed earlier, right? It's just so now I've been playing with all that. So I'm thinking I'm figuring that out now, which is great. But I was like a zombie till like seven. And it I felt anxiety. I felt like I was behind on my day. Like I don't do like even 6 a.m. this morning, I was calm and conscious. I got my workout done. I was so I was out the door. Like it was no problem. Um, but when I'm not, it doesn't. So if I do that every day, right, from now for 84 days, I wake up at five o'clock in the morning, I spend time with God, I pray, I have do my red light, I get my like I'm already at 5,000 steps before like like I'm setting the tone for my day. And if what we're bringing into Lumina, right, is that whole executive athlete? It's that whole, like if I'm coaching at the highest level, then I have to be at the highest level. And that's one habit that I'm like desperately ready to devote my time to. And I used to do it, and it was beautiful and it like changed my life. So for you, it's like, what's if you were to remove all alcohol from your life, what would happen by December 31st?
SPEAKER_00:Um the guys on my hockey team wouldn't want to hang out with me as much.
SPEAKER_01:Um Adam, Carrie, I know you're listening to this. You need to be one for the team here.
SPEAKER_00:Um what was the question? What would happen to me?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, like like you would what would if you okay, that one micro shift. So you're just removing alcohol from your from everything.
SPEAKER_00:It would lead to clarity, weight loss, less anxiety, more production, um more pride. More pride, maybe, maybe less headaches. I don't know. Yeah, like all that stuff. Yeah, it's some good things there.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So what what's getting in the way? Well, it's delicious.
SPEAKER_00:It's wine.
SPEAKER_01:I mean So this is the way for anyone listening. This is what we have to, this is like a coaching, like this is almost like what's getting in the way of that. So it's like almost a so okay, this is good. So is the like it's like, oh but my bed's so cozy and it feels so good just to sleep, and it feels like it's like the same thing, right? It's like the womb.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, like let's let's let's let's be honest with each other. Like, like a glass of wine is it is delicious, but it's also it's a coping mechanism. It it's if you're anxious or stressed, everyone likes a glass of whatever they like because it calms some of that stress. Let's let's go.
SPEAKER_01:A going for dinner. Remember how that used to be our suffer coping?
SPEAKER_00:Let's call a spade a spade. Like they I do enjoy a glass of wine for the taste. Like a good red wine is a good, like it's enjoyable with a steak. But like we all, we all, you know, have reached for, and maybe not everyone, reach for a glass when you're stressed out or there's anxiety, or it's a Friday night and you've had a long week, you're like, oh, I just want a glass of wine to kind of numb out. Like, I'm not like that.
SPEAKER_01:I think that's fairly common, you know, maybe not, but you know, you know what might be helpful, okay, and maybe I don't know if this is helpful for anyone listening, but it's and maybe this is extreme, but it's like it's convenient at our house. So maybe you could potentially, like if you're really wanting to still enjoy that, it could be an experience. So, like, for example, no, like have non-alcoholic at the house. And then it's like if you're, but then I feel like you're just gonna get into it. Cause it's like then if you go out for dinner, it's like there's so many mock tails and so many things, but having a glass of wine at dinner is so nice. It's like ritual, it's it's you're enjoying it. And I remember too, when, and this is something that when you were working with one of your amazing therapists, she said, she's like, as long as you have the intention behind it, it's like locked and loaded. Like, what does that, what does that look like? So just just like that stuff for anyone that's listening to really like, are you negotiating against yourself? Are you letting yourself off the hook? Or is this something that you want to build it? Like, is that what you feel comfortable with in integrity? Like, if you want to be like, I'm gonna have a glass of wine four times in the next three months.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_01:Like that, that, you know, like, and then the rest of it is you are pretty much sober.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. You know, like that's kind of what I was referring to when you asked me, like, what are you gonna do at Thanksgiving?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And I think that's just where, but it's I think the the trickiness is is when when it's like, okay, well, that one turns into the bottle or that one turns into two. So just being aware. So anyone that's listening, it's like for me, it's like, okay, so Kim, you say 5 a.m. Who and I'm gonna do this for me. You know, for a long time, I used to be doing that for my business. And I like would, you know, have to do this and do those things. But if I do this for me because that's my standard, if you're doing this for you because that's your standard, then that's a consistent shift, right? You don't need to rebuild your whole life. You need one consistent shift.
SPEAKER_00:And on a Sunday, are you gonna get up at five?
SPEAKER_01:I'd love to.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:I would love to because I'd love to be in bed by eight by nine o'clock because that's I I cut my val my high value is taking care of myself.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So everything shifts. I don't need to be working till nine o'clock at night anymore. That's not our reality anymore. It was, it's not anymore. So my that identity is evolving, and that's and then your behaviors have to upgrade to your identity. That's really the biggest thing I'm working on. And that's one thing I was told about three years ago. You know, when I raced in, I was like, I need DEMDR. I'm I'm broken. And my therapist looked at me. She's like, she's so matter-of-fact, Liana. She's like, no, your behaviors just have to catch up with your identity. And I was like, that is a mic drop. If I've ever heard a mic drop, that was the best thing. And I've been working towards that. And now it's time. So we are really rising from clarity. And I think clarity starts when you decide to take one aligned action. So that's your one action, that's my action. We want to know what your action is.
SPEAKER_00:And the the thing about it is I know if if if I when I do that one aligned action, I know the other four things will start to kick into place. I love that. They always do.
SPEAKER_01:Exactly. They always do. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:We all know what those are. You know, like more water, actually, all that shit follows one decision. And that's why it's easier to focus on one thing that you can do.
SPEAKER_01:So and I think one of the one of the things too, it's like, okay, so you have to anchor it. So you're gonna attach your habit to something you already do, right? So what are you, when are you good, what how are you gonna anchor that? So for me, last night I anchored, I I knew when I was going to bed, I knew I was getting up at six, and I was like, okay, I'm gonna have the best sleep. So before I went to bed, I visualized I was gonna have the best sleep. I was gonna have enough REM sleep. I was gonna get out of bed at six o'clock, and I was gonna, so that anchored, right? Now that anchored my evening routine. So for you, it's like, what would you anchor? You're going out with the the boys tonight, or you're gonna do the what are you gonna anchor in to know this is my promise to myself? So that's one thing for us to think, one example for you to actually like it's a tool to make this actually implement. Like, how do I implement this? How do I, how do I actually do this, right?
SPEAKER_00:And that uh honestly, what I would do is I would I would tell a couple guys on my team I'm not drinking.
SPEAKER_01:Perfect. Love that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah. So no, I'm not drinking for a while.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, that's amazing.
SPEAKER_00:And then just kind of holds you accountable to them and they they know not to ask questions, not because it's a problem, but I'm just it's good to let them know. Like I would be like, hey, Adam, I'm just actually not drinking for a while. Yeah, trying to get really healthy.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, number two.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:What you track reveals your trends. Your trends reveal your truth, and your truth will set you free. So should we do some sort of like a track, a tracker or something that we can do? Like, or do you want to like, you know, like we have 84 days left in the like, do you want to put like 84 dots on a on a sheet, something like that? I'm just giving uh tools, right? And then share it, just like Jamie just said. So have accountability, right? So anchor it, track it, share it, and then stack it. Once it feels easy, what's that one more thing? Because growth, like you said, growth doesn't come from pressure, right? It comes from momentum. So once you have that momentum, you have a week under your belt, you're like, okay, we're gonna get through it. We're gonna go get non-alcoholic wine, we're gonna bring that, we're just gonna drink that. Like it's just it's just changes.
SPEAKER_00:And pride, like you said, pride really helps too.
SPEAKER_01:I love that. And I think too, one of the things before we wrap this up is like inquire where the resistance is. Like that was really fun doing that together because you're like, oh yeah, you're gonna get up at 5 a.m. We need to challenge each other on that to be like, how how serious are you?
SPEAKER_00:Let me say that. This is this is this is the this is the reframe, is for me, because I just started playing hockey again last year. It was so much fun, such good guys. Part of the joy of that was going out after and having a beer with the guys, but you need to reframe the joy wasn't the beer, the joy was going out with the guys. And you don't need to have fun. The drink wasn't what was fun about it. What was fun about it was just going out with a bunch of dudes and just talking about stuff and hanging out, not the beer. That's the reframe for me.
SPEAKER_01:I love that.
SPEAKER_00:Now, can do I have to cut out the wings too?
SPEAKER_01:You can stack that next.
SPEAKER_00:That's a double stack of enjoyment, right?
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I think the wings are perfect. I love wings. I love a good wing. So it's so here's a couple questions. It's like, what's the one area of your life asking for attention right now? What would it look or feel? What would look or feel different in 12 weeks if you started today? Like right now, the day that you are, the day you are listening to this podcast. What would that look like? And then who might you become by staying consistent? And these questions are the things that build self-leadership. It's not about more, it's not about being more, being better. We might want more in our life, but in order to have more, is we need to be more intentional. We need to say, what am I saying yes to? So here's your challenge. Okay. Pick one commitment that you're gonna commit to, write it down, start today, tell us what it is. You can screenshot it, your commitment to us. You can put it on a posting note. I think we might need to make a tracker. Let us know if you want trackers. We're gonna do this with you. But share it in your stories, tag us both and like leave a rest, a review or a message and share that one thing. We're gonna be talking each week about what's working and what's not, and sharing how to build momentum through October because small moves builds massive, massive momentum. So just remember we've got 12 weeks, 84 days. Let's finish this year in alignment on purpose and with power.
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